{"id":7658,"date":"2026-07-19T13:38:36","date_gmt":"2026-07-19T13:38:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/maxkarlin.com\/?p=7658"},"modified":"2026-07-21T19:29:12","modified_gmt":"2026-07-21T19:29:12","slug":"par-ko-mes-runajam-kad-runajam-par-narcismu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/maxkarlin.com\/lv\/par-ko-mes-runajam-kad-runajam-par-narcismu\/","title":{"rendered":"Par ko m\u0113s run\u0101jam, kad run\u0101jam par narcismu"},"content":{"rendered":"

P\u0113d\u0113j\u0101s desmitgades laik\u0101 \u0161is v\u0101rds ir main\u012bjis savu veidolu. Agr\u0101k tas pieder\u0113ja kl\u012bniskajai literat\u016brai; tagad tas par\u0101d\u0101s ikdienas sarun\u0101s k\u0101 spriedums \u2014 par biju\u0161o partneri, priek\u0161nieku, m\u0101ti vai cilv\u0113ku, kur\u0161 satiksm\u0113 jums nogrieza ce\u013cu. Tas ir k\u013cuvis par vienu no nedaudzajiem psiholo\u0123ijas terminiem, kas galvenok\u0101rt funkcion\u0113 k\u0101 apvainojums, un \u0161o uzdevumu tas pilda tik efekt\u012bvi, ka m\u0113s gandr\u012bz vairs nejaut\u0101jam, ko tas s\u0101kotn\u0113ji bija dom\u0101ts apz\u012bm\u0113t. Manupr\u0101t, tas ir zaud\u0113jums, un ne tikai terminolo\u0123iskas precizit\u0101tes d\u0113\u013c. Izsekojot \u0161\u0101 j\u0113dziena pirms\u0101kumiem, atkl\u0101jas, ka tas apraksta kaut ko daudz tuv\u0101ku mums pa\u0161iem, nek\u0101 vairums no mums v\u0113l\u0113tos atz\u012bt.<\/p>\n

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S\u0101kotn\u0113ji tas raksturoja ikvienu<\/h2>\n

Kad Freids<\/a> 1914. gad\u0101 ieviesa \u0161o terminu psihoanal\u012btiskaj\u0101 dom\u0101\u0161an\u0101, vi\u0146\u0161 neaprakst\u012bja trauc\u0113jumus. Vi\u0146\u0161 aprakst\u012bja parastu att\u012bst\u012bbas posmu \u2014 z\u012bdai\u0146a attiec\u012bbas pa\u0161am ar sevi, pirms tas ir piln\u012bb\u0101 atkl\u0101jis, ka citi cilv\u0113ki past\u0101v k\u0101 atsevi\u0161\u0137as b\u016btnes ar savu iek\u0161\u0113jo pasauli. Narcisms \u0161aj\u0101 s\u0101kotn\u0113j\u0101 noz\u012bm\u0113 nav novirze. Tas ir s\u0101kumpunkts mums visiem.<\/p>\n

Da\u017eus gadus v\u0113l\u0101k Pauls Federns pirmais lietoja j\u0113dzienu \u201cvesel\u012bgs narcisms\u201d, un, lai gan tas izklaus\u0101s p\u0113c pretrunas, \u0161is formul\u0113jums joproj\u0101m ir noder\u012bgs. Paties\u012bb\u0101 vi\u0146\u0161 ar to dom\u0101ja, ka cilv\u0113kam vajadz\u0113tu b\u016bt pietiekamam pa\u0161v\u0113rt\u0113jumam, kas balst\u012bts re\u0101listisk\u0101 savu sp\u0113ju v\u0113rt\u0113jum\u0101. Ne p\u0101rsp\u012bl\u0113t\u0101 pa\u0161apzi\u0146\u0101. Bet ar\u012b ne pazem\u012bb\u0101. Vienk\u0101r\u0161i vesel\u012bg\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s ar savu v\u0113rt\u012bbu.<\/p>\n

Savuk\u0101rt Oto Kernbergs<\/a> aprakst\u012bja, k\u0101 tas izskat\u0101s, kad darbojas labi, un vi\u0146a skat\u012bjum\u0101 ir k\u0101ds nov\u0113rojums, pie kura es bie\u017ei atgrie\u017eos. Vi\u0146\u0161 uzskat\u012bja, ka stabils pa\u0161v\u0113rt\u0113jums nav kaut kas t\u0101ds, ko m\u0113s rad\u0101m vienatn\u0113. Tas veidojas no to cilv\u0113ku internaliz\u0113t\u0101s kl\u0101tb\u016btnes, kuri m\u016bs reiz m\u012bl\u0113ju\u0161i, \u2014 vi\u0146u pie\u0137er\u0161an\u0101s saglab\u0101jas k\u0101 sava veida iek\u0161\u0113js klimats, kas ir pieejams ar\u012b tad, kad vi\u0146i neatrodas mums l\u012bdz\u0101s. Ja \u0161\u012b strukt\u016bra ir neskarta, cilv\u0113ks sp\u0113j uz\u0146emt kritiku, nesabr\u016bkot, un pie\u0146emt siltumu, nej\u016btot vajadz\u012bbu to p\u0101rbaud\u012bt.<\/p>\n

Tas noz\u012bm\u0113, ka pa\u0161v\u0113rt\u0113jums sav\u0101 vispamat\u012bg\u0101kaj\u0101 l\u012bmen\u012b ir attiec\u012bb\u0101s sasniegts veidojums, nevis personisks tikums. Tas nav st\u0101sts, ko m\u016bsu kult\u016bra parasti pied\u0101v\u0101 par pa\u0161p\u0101rliec\u012bbu, tom\u0113r es uzskatu, ka tas ir prec\u012bz\u0101ks t\u0101s raksturojums.<\/p>\n

Divi skaidrojumi tam, kas noiet greizi<\/h2>\n

Kl\u012bniski nopietns \u0161is j\u0113dziens k\u013c\u016bst spektra gal\u0113j\u0101 punkt\u0101, un tie\u0161i \u0161eit divu noz\u012bm\u012bgu teor\u0113ti\u0137u skat\u012bjumi at\u0161\u0137\u012br\u0101s t\u0101d\u0101 veid\u0101, ko ir v\u0113rts saprast, jo pati at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bba starp tiem ir izgaismojo\u0161\u0101ka nek\u0101 katra poz\u012bcija atsevi\u0161\u0137i.<\/p>\n

Heincs Kohuts \u0161o probl\u0113mu uzskat\u012bja par defic\u012btu. Vi\u0146\u0161 dom\u0101ja, ka ikviens b\u0113rns iziet cauri pla\u0161as grandiozit\u0101tes periodam, ko raksturo tic\u012bba pa\u0161a varen\u012bbai un apk\u0101rt\u0113jo pieaugu\u0161o nevainojam\u012bbai. T\u0101 nav patolo\u0123ija, bet gan sava veida balsta konstrukcija. B\u0113rnam ir vajadz\u012bgs k\u0101ds, kur\u0161 \u0161o p\u0101rliec\u012bbu atspogu\u013co ar pietiekamu siltumu, lai t\u0101 pak\u0101peniski var\u0113tu mazin\u0101ties un p\u0101rtapt kaut k\u0101 viegl\u0101k p\u0101rvald\u0101m\u0101. Ta\u010du, ja \u0161\u0101da atspogu\u013co\u0161ana ilgsto\u0161i nenotiek, grandiozit\u0101te nenobriest. T\u0101 viet\u0101 t\u0101 saciet\u0113, atst\u0101jot pieaugu\u0161o past\u0101v\u012bgi atkar\u012bgu no citu sniegta apstiprin\u0101juma.<\/p>\n

Kernbergs saskat\u012bja kaut ko skarb\u0101ku. Vi\u0146a skat\u012bjum\u0101 uzp\u016bstais \u201ces\u201d nav apst\u0101jusies att\u012bst\u012bba, bet gan akt\u012bvi izveidota konstrukcija \u2014 bru\u0146as, ko b\u0113rns uzb\u016bv\u0113jis, rea\u0123\u0113jot uz aukstiem, neuzticamiem vai naid\u012bgiem apr\u016bp\u0113t\u0101jiem, un kuras veidotas \u012bpa\u0161i t\u0101d\u0113\u013c, lai ietvertu dusmu apjomu, ko b\u0113rns cit\u0101di nesp\u0113ja p\u0101rvald\u012bt. Grandiozit\u0101te nav apst\u0101jies att\u012bst\u012bbas posms. T\u0101 ir strukt\u016bra, zem kuras kaut kas atrodas.<\/p>\n

\"Otto
Oto Fr\u012bdmans Kernbergs ir Austrij\u0101 dzimis amerik\u0101\u0146u psihoanal\u012bti\u0137is un psihiatrijas profesors Weill Cornell Medicine. Vispla\u0161\u0101k vi\u0146\u0161 paz\u012bstams ar sav\u0101m psihoanal\u012btiskaj\u0101m teorij\u0101m par robe\u017est\u0101vok\u013ca person\u012bbas organiz\u0101ciju un narcistisko patolo\u0123iju.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Es nedom\u0101ju, ka mums b\u016btu j\u0101iz\u0161\u0137iras par labu vienam no \u0161iem skaidrojumiem, un kl\u012bniskaj\u0101 praks\u0113 abas ainas bie\u017ei past\u0101v l\u012bdz\u0101s. Ta\u010du abi skat\u012bjumi sapl\u016bst vien\u0101 punkt\u0101, kas tiek pazaud\u0113ts, kad \u0161o v\u0101rdu lieto k\u0101 apvainojumu: lai kas tas b\u016btu, tas s\u0101k\u0101s ar kaut ko, kas notika ar b\u0113rnu, kuram nebija nek\u0101das teik\u0161anas par notieko\u0161o.<\/p>\n

Tas nepadara pieaugu\u0161\u0101 uzved\u012bbu maz\u0101k kait\u012bgu. \u0160\u0101di organiz\u0113ti cilv\u0113ki var patiesi posto\u0161i ietekm\u0113t sev tuv\u0101kos, un es negrib\u0113tu, lai kaut kas no \u0161eit rakst\u012bt\u0101 tiktu uztverts k\u0101 iemesls palikt kait\u0113jo\u0161\u0101s attiec\u012bb\u0101s. Ta\u010du ir at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bba starp kait\u0113juma atz\u012b\u0161anu un izlik\u0161anos, ka cilv\u0113kam, kur\u0161 to nodara, nav iek\u0161\u0113j\u0101s pasaules. Kl\u012bniskaj\u0101 literat\u016br\u0101 zem grandiozit\u0101tes aprakst\u012btais nepavisam nav apskau\u017eams \u2014 tas ir tuk\u0161ums, kas nep\u0101rtraukti j\u0101piepilda no \u0101rpuses, un \u201ces\u201d, kas bez \u0101r\u0113ja piepild\u012bjuma nesp\u0113j saglab\u0101t savas v\u0113rt\u012bbas izj\u016btu ilg\u0101k par da\u017e\u0101m stund\u0101m. Tas ir nogurdino\u0161s veids, k\u0101 b\u016bt dz\u012bvam.<\/p>\n

Da\u013ca, kas man \u0161\u0137iet visinteresant\u0101k\u0101<\/h2>\n

Mana profesion\u0101l\u0101 orient\u0101cija ir eksistenci\u0101la, un tie\u0161i \u0161eit, manupr\u0101t, paveras v\u0113l kaut kas.<\/p>\n

Heidegera<\/a> cilv\u0113ka eksistences izpratne balst\u0101s nov\u0113rojum\u0101, ka m\u0113s nekad neesam izol\u0113tas vien\u012bbas, kas tikai p\u0113c tam non\u0101k saskar\u0113 ar pasauli. M\u0113s jau atrodamies taj\u0101, jau esam iesaist\u012bti, jau esam veidoti caur sav\u0101m attiec\u012bb\u0101m ar citiem. Ja t\u0101 ir taisn\u012bba, tad gal\u0113ja koncentr\u0113\u0161an\u0101s uz sevi nav vienk\u0101r\u0161i rakstura tr\u016bkums. T\u0101 ir cilv\u0113ka es\u012bbas pamatstrukt\u016bras deform\u0101cija \u2014 veids, k\u0101 st\u0101v\u0113t \u0101rpus t\u012bkla, kur\u0101 jau atrodamies.<\/p>\n

Un zem \u0161\u012bs deform\u0101cijas atrodas kaut kas univers\u0101ls. Viktors Frankls<\/a> uzskat\u012bja, ka dzi\u013c\u0101k\u0101 cilv\u0113ka motiv\u0101cija ir tieksme p\u0113c j\u0113gas un ka tad, kad j\u0113ga sabr\u016bk, m\u0113s nek\u013c\u016bstam neitr\u0101li \u2014 m\u0113s k\u013c\u016bstam tuk\u0161i. Da\u017ei autori ir ierosin\u0101ju\u0161i, ka narcisms darbojas tie\u0161i k\u0101 aizsardz\u012bba pret \u0161o tuk\u0161umu \u2014 k\u0101 priv\u0101ta mitolo\u0123ija, kas rad\u012bta, lai atvair\u012btu aizdomas, ka cilv\u0113ka eksistencei varb\u016bt nemaz nav \u012bpa\u0161as noz\u012bmes.<\/p>\n

Manupr\u0101t, \u0161\u0101das aizdomas apmekl\u0113 ikvienu. At\u0161\u0137ir\u012bba nav taj\u0101, ka da\u017eiem cilv\u0113kiem t\u0101s ir, bet citiem nav. At\u0161\u0137ir\u012bba ir taj\u0101, cik stingri cilv\u0113kam pret t\u0101m j\u0101aizsarg\u0101jas un vai vi\u0146am ir uz ko pa\u013cauties br\u012bd\u012b, kad \u0161\u012b aizsardz\u012bba sabr\u016bk.<\/p>\n

Emija van D\u0113rzena<\/a> ir rakst\u012bjusi, ka zin\u0101ma pa\u0161intereses pak\u0101pe ir ieausta m\u016bsu biolo\u0123ij\u0101, psiholo\u0123ij\u0101, kult\u016br\u0101 un gar\u012bgaj\u0101 dz\u012bv\u0113 \u2014 ka t\u0101 vienk\u0101r\u0161i ir da\u013ca no m\u016bsu uzb\u016bves un ka b\u016btiski ir tas, vai t\u0101 saglab\u0101 dialogu ar apzi\u0146u par pasaules pras\u012bb\u0101m pret mums. Pa\u0161v\u0113rt\u012bba, kas paliek \u0161aj\u0101 dialog\u0101, \u013cauj cilv\u0113kam r\u016bp\u0113ties par citiem, pa\u0161am nepaz\u016bdot. Pa\u0161v\u0113rt\u012bba, kas \u0161o dialogu zaud\u0113, k\u013c\u016bst par to, ko esam iem\u0101c\u012bju\u0161ies apz\u012bm\u0113t ar \u0161o vienk\u0101r\u0161oto, par ieroci p\u0101rv\u0113rsto v\u0101rdu.<\/p>\n

\"Emmy
Emija van D\u0113rzena ir ietekm\u012bga eksistenci\u0101l\u0101s terapijas p\u0101rst\u0101ve, kura sav\u0101 unik\u0101laj\u0101 pieej\u0101 apvieno filozofiju, psiholo\u0123iju un psihoterapiju.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

T\u0101p\u0113c, kad \u0161is v\u0101rds tagad izskan \u2014 un tas izskan past\u0101v\u012bgi \u2014, es pamanu sev\u012b v\u0113lmi pal\u0113nin\u0101t t\u0101 lietojumu. Ne t\u0101p\u0113c, lai k\u0101du attaisnotu, un ne t\u0101p\u0113c, lai apgalvotu, ka kait\u0113jums nav \u012bsts. Bet t\u0101p\u0113c, ka \u0161is j\u0113dziens, ja to uztver nopietni, neapz\u012bm\u0113 cilv\u0113ku kategoriju, pie kuras pieder tikai citi. Tas apraksta kaut ko t\u0101du, ar ko liel\u0101koties saskaramies m\u0113s visi, katrs ar at\u0161\u0137ir\u012bgiem pan\u0101kumiem.<\/p>\n

Ja j\u016bs saskaraties ar sek\u0101m, ko rad\u012bju\u0161as attiec\u012bbas, kas organiz\u0113tas ap \u0161\u0101du dinamiku, terapija var b\u016bt noder\u012bga vieta, kur to p\u0101rdom\u0101t. Nekas \u0161aj\u0101 rakst\u0101 nav dom\u0101ts k\u0101 diagnoze ne jums pa\u0161iem, ne k\u0101dam citam.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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